When it comes to confidence you must first understand where you are confident and where you are not confident. The video talks about people asking how to get confidence. If you are asking that question then you must be aware of an area of your life you are not confident. Also there must be areas of your life that you are confident even if it is by yourself making a cup of tea. If you are just being you and not measuring yourself against something or someone else then chances are that you will come across as being confident. Focus on the areas of your life that you are confident and strong. Study those areas and observe what you do differently to be confident in those given areas. Then once you have some key points spread that awareness into other not so confident areas of your life. Self awareness is a key part in process.